window.__mirage2 = {petok:"JW.xeV8p4o0gibLpop4tX9.JFQiLOiIWBdVZWHhPENw-1800-0"}; The bottom line is that if one is sure that what one sees is not sperm then one does not have to do anything provided that no wet dream was seen. And to understand why someone would like to reduce the frequency, the thought should not be purely spiritual (and we know that this is not something a person is NOT held accountable for). What if the discharge is transparent and more like any other secretion like the ones that comes from nose during flu? So Im not quiet understanding when is the time i need to do ghusl. and we have to wadu in this situation? Discharge can be more wet or more dry, and be more or less thick or viscous. During my sleep i sometimes experience this vaginal throbbing that occurs from a sexual dream i saw. And if there is white discharge we have to take ghusl? We are even taught how to use the bathroom properly. No doubt one most ask in order to educate themselves. Pingback: Quandary of Female Vaginal Discharge | MuslimMatters.org. I woke up and I could not remember clearly whether I had an orgasm in my dream or whether it was just part of the dream because when I woke up there was literally no discharge and no weird feeling as well. I did not know about Ghusl until recently, and didnt know all the procedures of cleanliness. Is there any islamic advice on this. Before we proceed, I want to mention that I was amazed at the level of shyness sisters feel in asking questions. //]]>, Join our e-mail list for regular site news and updates, All Rights Reserved for Islam Q&A 1997-2023. Recently, its been happening alot, it never used to happen before and Im 19 so it probably would have happened before if it was to do with puberty but it never did. Avoid red meat as much as possible (regulate it to twice or thrice a week, and not more) She must have yaqin (certainty) or at least a very strong presumption that shes had a wet dream (which includes an orgasm). Umm Salamah said: Umm Sulaym came to the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu alihi wasalam, and said, O Messenger of Allah, Allah is not too shy to tell us the truth. This is how things are for men, not sure if it is the same for women or how women can differentiate between the different types of discharges, and which ones require ghusl and which ones dont. We use cookies on IslamQA to measure visitor stats. However, the other opinion is inferred from a number of ahadith that state that the rulings are to be established at time of menstruation, like the hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alihi wasalam: Allah does not accept the prayer of a menstruating woman [i.e who has gotten her menstruation] unless she wears a veil [khimar]. Anyway, I am finding myself getting aroused by very random things and unintentionally. I cant smell my underwear as it was the same one I wore when I had the wet dream before suhoor. I read your description but Im still not convinced. Whenever you start becoming doubtful just say aaoodhobillah min ashaytaan ar rajeem and carry on with you daily affairs. She must make dua to Allah to protect her and her marriage. If you are suffering from incontinence of that wetness, then you have to perform ablution for every prayer after its prescribed time has started, and you pray whatever obligatory prayers and supererogatory prayers you wish with this ablutionuntil that time (i.e. So should i do ghusl anywayz in cases like these although in my heart i am more sure that it is frm sprinkling.JAzakAllahu kahirnWalaikum aslam wr wb. The cookie is set by the GDPR Cookie Consent plugin and is used to store whether or not user has consented to the use of cookies. this article really helped me alot It could be that a woman, as we discussed in the article and in QA with sh. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. Fast She should spend more time with her husband. is that considered masturbation even if i never rubbed or inserted anything into my vagina. 2. Can you clarify this for me please. Or just in front in general, because then things could get a little dicey where praying in public is concerned. Thank you for writing this article. 3. I do intend to discuss that in details in a future post inshaAllahhowever that is not the goal of this particular post. Im very often having wet dreams. Wet dreams are as normal for women as they are for men. For me its the same stuff that comes out a woman when arroused. in the qna for the likeagarment course shaykh yasir stated that it is not haram. Fasting and praying is better. :o) And yes, we can get obsessive at times, and that is also not good. So when the need rises, one must ask in order to educate themselves regarding these issues which are of utmost importance. I have followed your points Umm Reem at night i make a dua before going to bed and while waiting for sleep i read tasbeeh of AstagfurAllah still yesterday night i saw a dream of a man there was no such thing in but as the dream continued and i feel a bit of pushing in my vaginal area i opened my eyes. Please do not traumatize children about their natural bodily functions. If a person is awake and has thoughts, then what usually comes out is the madhyy only which doesnt gush out and it can even come out without the person feeling it or realizing it because it can come out without ejaculation, and this type of discharge is considered impure and requires the person to make wudu but it does not require ghusl, where as semen coming out due to ejaculation requires that the person makes ghusl. Umm Reem, As-Salaam alaykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu. He said: Women are the full sisters of men. [Sunan Ab Dwd and Sunan al-Tirmidh]. discharge after a wet dream is involuntary act. Once a sisters 9-10 year old daughter used her mothers body massager on her private areas; and ,very innocently, explained to her mother that it used to feel good. Then I used to ignore it and continue praying however when I do ghusl for menstruation, I make two intention for the ghusl. yes, if you were sexually aroused. So, should I have done a ghusl or must an orgasm be completely fulfiled? She had been actively involved with Islamic community since 1995 through her MSA, and then as a founding member of TDC, and other community organizations. im 23 and people commonly mistake me for someone 14 to 18 years old . Ibn al-Mundhir said: All the scholars from whom I acquired knowledge are unanimously agreed on this If he wakes up and sees maniy, but does not remember having a wet dream, then he must do ghusl. Apparently modesty requires writing women out of history. And then I thought about your post. Yes, she can count it as only breaking wudhu. 4. May Allah bless you brother Massoud and grant you proper understanding and beneficial knowledge. I found mensturation not too difficult to deal with as I explained it to my younger sister before she started mensturating but i was kinda freaked out at the examples of two girls you gave about massager and shower how would you help them understand that its not right? then again how would you know if she will experience them or not? What I do when taking ghusl is rinse my mouth and clean my nose and then take a shower beause I heard and may Allaah forgive me that the whole body must be wet and there should be no dry part on your body where the water hasnt reached. I will appreciate a response looking at this issue of masturbation from all angles, including the Islamic principle of choosing the lower of 2 evils. I didnt smell anything. May Allah reward you. What Islam teaches us is transparency on subjects like this. We use cookies on IslamQA to measure visitor stats. Right now there is no extra discharge even. and the other thing is if a girl watching a movie or any romantic video cause her orgasm but she dont feel wet. If its too embarrassing over the phone, request the sheikh to ring you after the show and they do. Umm Salamah was so shy, even with such a brief question, that she covered her face when asking the messenger of Allaah sallallahu alayhee wsalam, who was her husband! Registering ones marriage necessary as per Shariah. These include shellfish, excessive spice, etc. Please note I am not qualified Islamically or medically and below is based on my own reading growing up. This is why, I decided to have a full entry on this topic, for a number of reasons: Alhamdulillah, we're at over 850 supporters. The person has the intention in his heart before he starts praying. What does this hadith mean, specifically? Salaam The bottom line is that if one is sure that what one sees is not sperm then one does not have to do anything provided that no wet dream was seen. Rather, he made it quite clear that women can have wet dreams just like men do and there is no oddity or incongruity with it. You can take note of how so many Muslim women are interested in this topic. I know there are some anti-sex psychos in the world that actually believe this, but the fact is that God made us and our bodies to operate and function in several ways, and God is nowhere near the level of obtuseness as these kind of psycho/religious fanatics. If you dont, email them. I am a young teenager and I have recently found out about this. A humane compassion for their fellowman through my first love, literature. narrated by al-Bukhaari(510) and Muslim (507). I just went to leave my reply here so i can see if there is an update to ur inquiry. I wanted to know if you have to do ghusl, if you cant remember whether you had an orgasm when sleeping or not? 2. Its different for men and women. So maybe it might raise the status of this Hadith to Hasan li Ghayrihi? If you go to an orthodox Jewish blog, I am sure youll find many discussions there strange as well, as the Torah-based laws are even harder and stricter than Muslims. i am a teen ager!! Hope you are well. Interacting with married folks on personal matters. Dont you think men are getting excited over this? but confused.. why this happen so intensely . if a women get wet dream in day time and his vagina get wet but she doesnot find any drops of liquid in her inner or pant. Uncertainty about purity and wet dream. - IslamQA 4. Saheeh Muslim, 469). Performance cookies are used to understand and analyze the key performance indexes of the website which helps in delivering a better user experience for the visitors. assalam alaikum dear sister They said, Prayer is annulled by a dog, a donkey and a woman (if they pass in front of the praying people). I said, You have made us (i.e. She studied Arabic Language & Literature at Qatar University and at Cairo Institute in Egypt. In the vagina, this swelling creates a sweating reaction, producing a fluid that makes the vaginal lipsget wet. Salam Alykum Warihmutullahi Wabarakatuhu. This does not purify as it does not count as washing. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "Yes, if she sees water (discharge of fluid)." Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said in al-Mughni (1/130): If he thinks that he had a wet dream, but he did not find any maniy, then he does not have to do ghusl. When I try to prevent these thoughts from going through my head, sometimes I get a feeling. I did have had wet dreams but never did i do ghusl as I didnt know about it is my ibadah accepted? Also after my period I usually get extra discharge white clear liquid and I am not sure if its because my hormones are quite high during this time as it is usually when I have these dreams. Also, do those ejaculations while awake require ghusl because if it did people could end up taking so many ghusls? please go back to the article, i have expalained it there. i also have a question already published above but not answered! 2. And received an Its okay miss, we understand. Followed by a patient silence, but Ive wondered and at times discovered extreme unhappiness behind those good manners, particularly with regard to the issues in your post, exacerbated with an obligatory cultural guilt. 1.too much wet dream is driving me mad to masturbation 2. are muslim brothers allowed to chat/phone muslim sisters on mobile? Another thing to note is that the phrase a woman who has gotten her menstruation means a woman who has reached puberty, and it isnt talking about whether that woman has her menstrual period when she passes in front of the person praying or not. How do you guys feel after a wet dream? | NoFap Sometimes it is hard to remove such thoughts from your mind So if we say ASTAGFURALLAH we will seek forgiveness from Allah right? For more details, see Ash-Shawkanis analysis on this weak Hadith in his work Nayl Al-Awtar (1/281). I would say just start talking about it. What Should I Do after Seeing a Wet Dream. It is not as simple to explain the orgasm in words. jazakAllaahu for the reply. I am in control, this will all pass, everything will be just fine. If a person masturbates when they are awake and this causes the ejaculation, then that is different than a wet dream and it also has its different ruling in Islam since it is voluntary ejaculation where as the wet dream is not. If black dog represents shaytan, does this mean that in islam woman is considered as satin? And precisely why Islams instructions are always fresh. I dont see what they can do about it. Assalamualaikum dear sister Try sleeping on your side or back to help stop them. How much I would have liked to have shared the knowledge within it. However he has a mutabaa for this hadith as that same incident was also related by someone else with a sound chain from the hadith of Anas may Allah be pleased with him. A brief summary of the requirements for the Ghusl follow. 3 . Q: I have a question about wet dreams. Does a woman have to do ghusl if she has a wet dream? The Prophet said: Yes, if she sees water (a discharge). Umm Salamah covered her face and said, O Messenger of Allah, can a woman have an erotic dream? He said, Yes, may your hands be rubbed with dust. Al-Bahr Ar-Raa'iq reads: We donot say that Ghusl is obligatory because of Mathy, butbecause Maniyy becomes thin after a long period and looks just like Mathy but it is not really Mathy; this is regarding when some sleeping wakes up and finds wetness., However, the Hanbali and the Maaliki schools of jurisprudence hold that if a person knows that it is Mathy, then he is not obliged to perform Ghusl. To use my passion for the canon of western literature on the school syllabus to perhaps help the children to see the importance of empathy for the plight of others. Light sprinkling in ones underwear has only been recommended for those with neurotic misgivings who are constantly afraid of urine exiting their body as it allows them to assume that any moisture felt in their underwear is from the sprinkling and not urine. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance". Do you have any contacts where we could purchace Alim books. Usually when I am afraid to see any man in my dream or even think of such things awake, I experience a wet discharge, like lubrication, the one that only breaks wudu, so I guess I was having it that moment as well and may be even had during a sleep already. Pour . The above points if you look closely address just the unmarried, and only two aspects Dietary, and Psychological. A woman will feel fulfilled and satisfied with an immediate drop of tingling in vaginal area and all sexual sensations. i saw myself imagining about my future husband (whom i never met) and thought about sexual things and orgasmed right there. It is a strong sexual sensation that sends waves of pleasure from abdominal area to vaginal area, which makes a woman arch her back a bit and perhaps want to thrust her pelvis spasmodically. i dont know how just by thinking about sex a person has orgasmbut if someone does then he/she has to make ghusal. Avoid spice and sugar and by Spice I mean Cloves, Cardamom etc. How does knowing what it feels like to have a orgasm affect your salah? then our bedsheet become dirty or not ? . And also this only happens rarely and totally uncontrollably. Jazakullahkhairan katheera for this very informative and much needed article. I read on a website that if a woman has sexual thoughts and discharges then her wudu becomes invalid. i have reasearched and had an infection after having my baby in the past so can rule out for myself its not an infection despite what he thinks. There are a number of lectures given from, Mothers feel shy talking to their daughters about it. The question of womens presence cutting off prayer is one issue that Sayyida Aisha (ra) disputed, and her refutation of it is noted in Sahih Bukhari: That is true, because Aisha may Allah be pleased with her was not aware of the other hadith of the Prophet peace be upon him which stated that the woman passing in front of the man who is praying cuts off his prayer, and based on what she saw the Prophet pray towards the bed in which she was lying down in. Refer to my comment above akhi, it should clear things up inshAllah. Signing a contract which contains a payment clause on interest. Wet Dreams 101 Tips To Stop Night Fall | Mr Mind Blowing Female Wet Dreams: Islamic Perspectives & Regulations He is an active instructor at SeekersGuidance and answers questions through the SeekersGuidance Answers Service. Assalamu Alaikum, By educating them not only you will fulfill your responsibility but you will also open a door of communication with your daughters, inshaAllah. I am having an issue causing me a lot of anxiety for the past couple of months. I realized I saw my ex-husband, then someone else, I started worry if I saw some sexual relation etc, I was kind of sure I didnt see anything like that and didnt experience climax in the dream, but as there were parts of a dream that I didnt remember anymore, I was starting having doubts and trying to remember all. Masturbation slows down or stops wet dreams. I m actually confused i read on ur website two point first saying that if u dont remember having seen a wet dream and unsure whther wetness is mani, madhiy etc then u dont do ghusl. The intention is the fact that you for example want to pray maghrib 3 rakahs, so that intention should be in the persons heart and is not to be pronounced with the tongue before you start the prayer. Someone please correct me for anything Ive said wrong. satisfied. Does a woman have to do ghusl if she has a wet dream? The Prophet said: Yes, if she sees water (a discharge). Umm Salamah covered her face and said, O Messenger of Allah, can a woman have an erotic dream? He said, Yes, may your hands be rubbed with dust. Jazakallahu khair for taking on a such a sensitive yet crucial subject. But up until now I have never made full/complete wudu and then bathe and that is where I was confused. Last week my desires have been so bad and to control myself is very difficult. I advise all of the brothers and sisters reading this, if you have a question, go to islamqaDOTcom and type in keywords of your question, 9 times out of 10, you will find your answer inshaAllaah. Orgasm is not the state of sexual arousal, but that of pleasure. The person praying should also try and stop anyone who passes in front of him directly between him and his sutrah, because the Prophet peace be upon him also said: If one of you prays facing towards something that is screening him from the people, and someone wants to pass in front of him, let him push him in the chest, and if he insists then let him fight him, for he is a devil. narrated by al-Bukhaari (509) and Muslim (505). I just decided to change my panties wash myself there and performed wudu and went to pray. Get up for tahajud and pray to Allah that he removes these thoughts until you get married and for Allah to provide you with a good spouse. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. Sister thank u so much for clearing that stuff up for me but in one the hadeeths or quranic verse it says that having wet dreams is a sign of puberty and I havent hit puberty yet Im 13 so does that mean that it is fardh for me to start praying on time etc. Is Orgasm different from the initial vaginal throbbing sensation that one feels when one has been aroused? The color, smell, and consistency of discharge can change throughout the month, depending on where you are in your menstrual cycle. A much needed article. Shaykh ibn Uthaymeen said: Am I to just live in my bathroom? This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. 1. If it was deleted, please do not delete this response. Or the angels who are with you recording everything you do to be questioned on the Day of judgement? The irony is we seem ill at ease with discourse about intimacy and sexuality whilst the greatness of our faith waits for us to seek the knowledge revealed 1400 hundred years ago. i dont want this to lead me astray. [Ibn 'Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar] Assure them, that they can always come and talk to you about it. Oh, dont get me started on the Orthodox Jews, Amad. It is important to note here though that sometimes a female may wake up in the middle of the dream, before having an orgasm. Therefore, if a girl/woman sees a wet dream, it does not mean that she is sexually perverted, lewd or immodest in any sense. Your email address will not be published. He is an active instructor at SeekersGuidance and answers questions through the SeekersGuidance Answers Service. Asslaam u alaikum, How else would her child resemble her? (Bukhari). instrument to insert or rub vaginal area to reach orgasm and feel And i wake up little later worried if that breaks my wudu or ghusl because i cant really control what i am thinking at night def. This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. Does female maniy gushes out too? Therefore, if a person has what seems to be a wet dream, but upon waking finds nothing, then he does not have to bathe. If a woman has never had any sexual expereince..when she expreinces a wet dream how does she know if she has orgasmed or not? It is a very good question, but to be honest I dont know the answer. The issue of whether masturbation is permissable or not is an area of disagreement, as there are no explicit evidences to prohibit it. I think I have made too many comments for one post which isnt even about a mans issue but about women, but inshAllah this would be my last comment on here. The cookie is set by GDPR cookie consent to record the user consent for the cookies in the category "Functional". The teachings of Islam do not impose such difficulty on people. 6. Im very confused and I read dua every night. So, this is not obsession, it is giving it its fair due. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. Can we summarise as follows therefore: Sometimes this discharge comes in small amounts and other times it comes in larger amounts and it is clear in color and is sticky. When Is Ghusl Obligatory? - Prayer In Islam Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Shyness is part of faith. So shyness in religion is part of faith, but when someone says There is no shyness in religion, what he means is that there is no shyness in matters of religion, i.e., in asking about something concerning which one may feel shy. I cant imagine anyone in their right mind saying yes. What if a female is sure she had a wet dream and had vaginal theobbing and sexual arousing but did not reach the point of having an orgasm. And what about if a man passes in front of a woman? Now come scenarios that are mixed with doubts, could you kindly answer them too, please? Does this mean salah is not accepted from a woman past the age of puberty unless she wears a khimar? We got married. On another note, it would be good if one of the sisters at MM write a post about menstruation and the difference between it and the other type of blood (which has different color and smell than the blood of menstruation) that might continue to come out even though the womans period might be over (hayd vs istihaadah), because I think a lot of sisters might not know the difference, and so as long as they see blood they think they are still in their menstrual period and do not pray, where in reality their period might be over and that blood which is still coming out is not due to menstruation and so they are required to pray, but they dont even know that and they think that they are still in their menstrual period and that they are not required to pray. GET MARRIED. and Allah knows best, i am sort of confused it is actually a huge problem if we get such things in our dream and have to take a shower on daly basis especially in Pakistans chilling weather. . JazakAllah khair sister.thank u sister for solving my problem.after these dreams i felt very guilty n blamed myself. some hours it stops and some hours it happens again. Dreams that would render a ritual bath (ghusl) to be obligatory upon waking up while seeing madhi or mani are dreams in which what was seen was mainly intercourse. possibly the shayateen are bothering you at night and as you said yourself that they stop with adhkar etc. Please keep in mind that this fatwa is in answer to a mans question. 1 Some people wake up in the . , I would like to know more about the hadith as well- How would the man know if the woman was menstruating? If u can recall it and are half awake it counts as masturbation, It is not allowed at that point to use ones own hands or any These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. Uncertainty about purity and wet dream. It made me reflect on the thousands of children, teenagers to be specific, I have taught over the years. Dhikr It is allowed if it will keep a person from falling into greater sin When I checked afterwards, I discovered Id left a large wet spot. Please show me the best way for dawah to someone who used to pray fast, etc? 3. This is the closest that one can get to being sure. I feel terrible knowing the fact that one has to perform ghusl if one sees a wet dream. 3. Do you still have to do ghusl? Balance is always advised, but we are humans like other humans, and we make mistakes. I want to know where can we ask personal questions. pls urgent response.. Foremost I wanted to instil in them, empathy and compassion. As for khimar being required for going out of home, there is a difference of opinion. Thanks for adding this comment because I was about to add a comment asking this question. That was about ten years ago and over the time; our society has only become more corrupted. How do they look, what is their composition to differ them? The sutrah can be anything that is at least a couple of feet in height, such as a tree, a pole, a chair, a wall, or any other object can be used. thats why people are asking anonymously, some sisters wh have wet dreams could be in distress and too shy to ask anyone thats why we need posts like this educateing sisters so that it doesnt become taboo. Umm Salamah asked: What about women, O Messenger of Allah? Stress on INVOLUNTARY. Really appreciate the article especially that I have two beautiful daughters now and sometimes I wonder how would i be able to speak to them about all the awkward stuff. What if a person is asleep but knows they are using their hands to touch themselves in that area, but they are half asleep half awake, but they can still feel it? In terms of sexual stimulation, veins in a womans genital tissues begin to dilate and fill with blood, gradually making the whole area feel full (called vasocongestion). I would say start by educating them about their body parts, and how certain parts of the body are very private and needs to be well guarded and taken care of because we are Muslims and Allah has asked us to do so (and you can read some of the surahs WITH meanings to them etc. And you, Barakallahu Feekum, have shown other of its Shawahid. Those scholars, who support the opinion that wet dreams are an indication of a girl reaching the age of puberty, base their opinion on the signs of male puberty and do not make any distinction between the two genders; they include menstruation as an additional sign for females. She is a pastoral counselor for marriage & family, women and youth issues. dietary, and other factors are not e.g. No doubt sister, one must ask in order to educate themselves. 8. Im of 19 years old and not getting periods from last 2 months. I am a bit hurt and shocked. These cookies track visitors across websites and collect information to provide customized ads. They always ask lots of needless questions. These cookies help provide information on metrics the number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc. . GET MARRIED. 2:- Avoid sleeping on your stomach. Carlos, before modern science and technology peoples hygiene varied widely, as youre probably aware. assalamualaykum. reached the age of puberty, wAllahu taala alam. Rather, modesty should be maintained when askin. (Followed by question2) If the age is above 12, would it be abnormal if you had wet dreams at Yes, there is no doubt that the Hadiths meaning is correct, as similarly has been narrated in Muslim (#311 and #314) and others. It is crucial that every parent have this talk with their kids, both boys and girls, and inform them about these things and the Islamic rulings on them.